Hey there, and you are very welcome to this episode, and today I am talking about ownership of your business. Um, so we're just off a global online stars call and, um, it's the end of 2022 and we were doing a review of the year, forgiveness and letting go, celebrating and success and all of the rest. And, um, so one of the things I wrote down on my personal worksheet was, um, in the personal section was owning your ship. So owning your ship and ownership and, um, you know, when you were reflecting on the year that goes by. And, um, for me there was a lot of personal stuff, um, that really rocked, rocked my own, um, life and, and not rocked in a good way, but literally rocked my boat. And, um, you know, I guess for me personally, I have found it challenging, you know, keeping everything going in my own life and then managing the personal stuff that's going on.
And I think trying to understand and create head headspace, um, between the two, and it can be very emotionally challenging. So if you are someone right now who has, you know, other demands in their life who feel that whatever's going on in your life, in your relationship, in your family, in some part of your world and it's affecting you, um, then, you know, I think what I'm beginning to learn, I, I wish I came in here with an amazing solution, but I guess it's just, first of all, it's the awareness that, you know, um, and some people do this better than others. Sometimes, to be honest, I can get too emotionally involved, um, where my heart, my hearts just pulls me completely away to, um, you know, when there's problems, um, in the family and, and I can get way to invest it. Um, and it's not good for me.
And, um, and it's not solving, it's not solving any problems faster or quicker. Um, and if anything, it's creating a problem. Um, so what I'm beginning to learn is the boundaries, the self boundaries of our own lives, of our own heart, um, and that, you know, we have to own our own ship. I had listened a few months back to, um, Joanna Hunter, I dunno if you know Joanna Hunter, go check her out. And, uh, Joanna had mentioned, I can't fully recall exactly what she had said, but she was speaking about someone and how the ships basically how to stay calm in your own ship, um, you know, and not let other ships rock your ship , something to that effect. Sorry. Now I'm paraphrasing terribly. And, um, you know, that really did stay with me in that, you know, we really have to keep our own ships afloat and we have to really, you know, make space for ourselves and our day, make space for ourselves and our heart and make space for ourselves, um, and our business and keep the mindset and the heart centered to staying on track.
Um, and that's where the owning your own ship, uh, came in for me this morning. So when I wrote that down, you know, I said I have to own my own ship. I have to own my own body, I have to own my own health. I have to own my home. I have to own my business and the results and the accountability of that. And, you know, being the captain of your ship and sometimes look, sometimes we all drop the ball on everything and some things. Um, and when we do, we have to remember to kind of pick it back up again. And, um, and that you can't, you know, you can't be the captain of other people's ship. You can't run other people's lives further. And it's taking that step back, it's taking the breathing space, space and it's, um, allowing life to happen, um, but not allowing your own ship to sink in the process.
And that has been the learning for me recently. Um, and, um, and to be honest, the last couple of years, you know, if you've had any loss in your family, I've had a couple of losses in the past couple of years and it's been really, really challenging and it's been a massive learning process for me as well personally, you know, and, um, juggling and grief and processing and learning to move through it. Um, learning to, to move through it, but yet still be in it. Um, it's so hard I can't even describe. If you've been through grief, then you understand maybe what I'm trying to say. But, um, but what I have definitely learned over the last few years is that the management of, of life and emotions and the ups and the downs, while learning to juggle yourself, your health, your home, your business, your kids, um, and that takes ownership, ownership and boundaries for your own life that, you know, you gotta set them out for yourself.
What do you need in your life to make sure that you have ownership of your ship? Um, you know, and maybe it's just letting people know that this is how you are running your life. Um, you know, I mean, you can just, I mean, it doesn't take a big, this is it, this is how I'm running my life, but it is, um, you know, small little things saying yes to the things that are for you and your ownership and saying no to the things that are not going to help you in your ownership of your life. Um, so it can be small boundaries. Um, a lot of small boundaries create big boundaries that protect you and your ownership of your life. And that's not to say that we are closing our heart to other people and their lives, but it's learning to manage you, your life, your ship, um, so that you can have full ownership of yourself, your life, your business, and your family.
Um, so that when other people are having problems that you don't sink with them and that perhaps you rising is actually gonna help them rise too. And it's okay to rise when maybe other people aren't doing so well. Um, this is how we support people is by being our best self. Um, and that's something I've really learned. You know, you can't, you can't sit with someone in their illness. Um, you know, you can definitely visit someone, you can be with them, but you can't fully go through every step with them. You can't be the person with it. And, um, and it's learning to let go of that. It's learning that that's okay, it's learning that, um, yeah, you have to live your own life. So that is some learning that I had this year, the last two years, if I'm honest, and probably, um, a bit further back than that.
Um, and so for me, I am beginning to draw a line in the sand and taking a stronger hold on myself and my own boundaries and owning my ship. So for you, what do you need to do for your ship? What you need to do to keep yourself, um, afloat, um, and sailing towards your goals and your direction. So grab a pen and paper, put on the kettle, make your favorite cup. Write down some things that you could change now and, um, you know, what little routines or habits are going to help you stay owning your ship, owning your life, owning your business. Um, I hope this episode has helped you. And as always, make sure you go to martha fraser.com where
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